Thursday, July 3, 2014

A time of your life



                        


A time of your life

There comes a time in your life that you think and feel being ignored to the maximum level.  A time when you feel you are unwanted, unloved or being taken for granted.  A time when you think the whole world is against you and going out of your direction,  in short,  you feel  derailed out of your station in life.

Others would then say,  just pray hard and seek for strength from above.  It is just a matter of “kneeling down”  and seek guidance for proper perspective in life.  Yes, pray for whatever you think and feel.  Lift it all to the Lord, He will help you.  You do it,  hoping against hope to find solace,  peace of mind and love.

There is then feeling of distance,  feeling of loneliness,  feeling of being all alone.  You try to hide your tears behind your smile,  you try to be strong and show to the world a happy face,  a strong will,  a strong person,  happy and contented.  You wear a mask,   you wear a façade only you will understand. 
                          


Sometimes people only notice your absence without even thinking/feeling the reason behind.   Every absence has a touching story and I believe only true or real friends will feel it.   The rest only appreciate  you when they need something from you!

Sometimes you feel bad when a friend just say “ I thought you forgot us” instead of saying “how are you?” because of your absence.   Every absence has a very good reason.
                      


Learn to look for the best in every situation.   SELF-TALK if I may say.

No matter what you’re going through,  if you look hard enough and keep the right attitude,  you can find something good about the experience.
You must make a choice to keep your mind focused on the better things.
Our lives move in the direction of our most dominant thoughts.

It’s time for you to soar with the eagles.

Look beyond where you want to be,  and let faith blossom in your heart.

There is sometimes a need to change our environment.

Quit sitting around worrying and feeling sorry for yourself.

Go find somewhere you can dream.

Get into an atmosphere where people build you up rather than tear you down.

Find a place where people will encourage you and challenge you to be the best you can be.  

Spend time with people who inspire you to reach for new heights.

If you associate with successful people,  before long,  their enthusiasm will be contagious and you will catch that vision.

If you stay in an atmosphere of victory,  you will develop a winning mind-set.

It is time for you to soar with an eagles rather than pecking around with the chickens.

Even when circumstances don’t go your way,  keep your mind set in the right direction.

Love with no reason. Give without expectations.
Love is not love until you give it away.

The more love is silently expressed the more obvious it can be seen.  I would rather love you in silence.
                       
                                                           Mhargz GV         

WHEN was the last time I said I LOVE YOU?



                           


When was the last time I said I LOVE YOU?

What would you feel if you asked this “stupid question?” and all you hear is a deafening silence.  A silence out of nowhere,  a silence that only your heart  understands.  Could it mean,  you never did say it lately or that you have taken your special someone for granted that you failed,  I repeat,  you failed to say I LOVE YOU?  Love is sweet,  love is beautiful,  love is a gift only if you shared it with someone.   Love is not love until you give it away.

I said “I LOVE YOU” but I did not hear it back.  I did not even see or feel the love or even just hear the “I LOVE YOU TOO!”   Saying I love you is music to one’s ear.  It is the sweetest words,  just three (3) simple words yet it means so much in a heart full of love.  Yes,  when you say I LOVE YOU,  you must be ready to hear it back or never at all.  Would it matter if the someone you love,  loves you or not?  Will it give impact to your life or will it make a difference?  It depends.

So many quotes about love … just to express one’s feeling.  Just to let go of what you feel at a given time or moment.  There is nothing wrong if you love someone,  and there is nothing wrong if the someone you love does not love you at all.  What matters is there is LOVE existing in your heart.  There is LOVE that inspires your being.  There is LOVE that makes you smile with no reason.  There is LOVE that makes your world go round,  and round and round.
                                


Love quotes … a buzz from the heart.

The worst or the best,  is our silence.  Silence makes the heart grow fonder.

Heart to heart connection needs no WI FI.  Lucky to be connected with you.

Discern to have the right attitude to accept challenges gracefully.

Love is the answer to every question.

The sweetest sound you will ever hear … “ I LOVE YOU”.

A lasting relationship is not just “hi and hello”,  “good morning or good night” “how are you?”.   One needs a loving touch with words of assurance.   One needs constant renewal of love and affection,  concern and intimacy for each other.  Each needs to keep in touch most often especially if it is a long distance love affair.  An extra mile or effort to let the love flourish amidst time,  distance and space.  It is a challenge of survival.

Love with no reason. Give without expectations.

Love is not love until you give it away.

The more love is silently expressed the more obvious it can be seen.  I would rather love you in silence.

Some friends are near and some are far. No matter where you are,  we stay connected “heart to heart.”

There is inner joy in saying I LOVE YOU,  even if you won’t hear it back.

Love if you may because it is a wondrous feeling beyond compare.  Love is beyond measure and you only understand it if you love and be loved.  Meanings dwells in the heart as soon as you embrace it.

Regardless of how people are treating you  keep doing the right thing;  don’t get offended or upset;  don’t try to pay them back,  returning evil for evil.

Keep extending forgiveness;  keep responding in love.   If you do that,  then when it comes time for you to get everything you deserve,  and more!

“If someone wants you in their life, they'll make room for you. You shouldn't have to fight for a spot.”

“Start spending time with the right people.  These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.”

“Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.”

Love like there's no tomorrow, and if tomorrow comes, love again.
                           


Love is never a relationship, love is relating.

The worst or the best,  is our silence.  Silence makes the heart grow fonder.

Heart to heart connection needs no WI – FI.  Lucky to be connected with you.

Discern to have the right attitude to accept challenges gracefully.

With all the negatives that we encounter, remain  strong and positive.

The goodness of LOVE is never ending,  overflowing and never failing.  Let love be your greatest desire.

You just came into my life, made me special but all of a sudden left me with no goodbye.

The most painful goodbye is never said;  all you hear is silence.

If you don’t hear it back or if no one said I LOVE YOU, then you are hanging around with the wrong person.
                           
                                                          
                                                 Mhargz GV         



He loves me, he loves me not. He loves me, he loves me not!



                                      
   

He loves me,  he loves me not.   He loves me,  he loves me not.

High school life was full of fun and moments.  Friends,  here,  there and everywhere.  No pressure,  no competition or perhaps envy.   Just the bonding   moments of togetherness.  It was full of memories now treasured in the locker of my heart.  Wow,  moments of care free beyond compare plus the house hopping with friends.


When alone, I  picked daisies and sat in a corner,  plucked the petals one by one and chanted,  “He loves me,  he loves me not.  He loves me,  he loves me not.”  And when the last petal ended up with he loves me,  I shouted for joy! Why did it makes me happy if someone loves me?  Is loving someone not suffice?

As I grow older gracefully,  I realized that love was there,  always been there,  no matter what happened.  It has long been there even before you met the “right” person.  Love remains forever,  it is just the lovers  that changes along with time.  Change is permanent and people changes too and learn to let go and move on. Then you learn to be the right person for your lover.

Love is a wondrous feeling beyond compare or beyond measure. Love has meaning only if you share it with someone you love,  take note,  “someone you love.”  Not necessarily if the “someone” loves you or not.  What matters is “what you are when you are with someone you love.”  What you become out of loving the person or what feelings you feel,  feelings that you  never felt before.  It is self-centered.  It is “you”,  what you feel,  what you become and what you think at the moment.  Why you smile with no reason?  Simply because you love and you love yourself for loving someone.  And if someone you love,  loves you back,  consider it a bonus or a gift worth to treasure.

Why do I cry when  the man I love no longer loves me.  Why do I feel sad if  the man of my dream is already happy with other being or probably committed or just left  for whatever reason?  Why does it hurt so much if you perceive that something has changed.  You realize you are no longer part of his story.   Or should I inject humor,  you are now history!  Love is for real and not for fun.

Sometimes we have the tendency to beg for love and affection,  beg for time and attention,  beg for his precious moment,  beg for something even if time is unfavorable.   Just beg for his presence and you do everything to your powers to hold him back yet of no avail.  Then you try to hybernate and cry … and eventually accept the pain of separation,  process,  validate and confirm by letting go and moving on.
                              


This is painful.  You feel self - pity and humiliation.  You feel belittled out of begging.  You feel that you don’t deserve this kind of treatment.  You feel empty and incomplete forgetting that you are a complete person even without someone you love. Why this kind of feeling?  Why the pain of rejection?  Why all of a sudden you feel being dumped upon or just pushed aside without saying goodbye.

“How soon the flame of love can die,  how soon good night becomes goodbye.”

Every hello comes a painful goodbye.  But it will leave you stronger and a better person.  The joy of loving,  the joy of knowing one person that touch your heart,  mind and soul and now part of your story.

Why do you feel happy if he loves you?  What is the difference if he loves you or he loves you not? Happiness is an inside job.  It is within us.  Even if he loves you or he loves you not,  will it make you happy?  Will it make a difference of your being?

When you say I LOVE YOU be ready if you hear back I LOVE YOU TOO.  Stand by it,  fight for it and die for it.  If you don’t hear it back,  at least you love,  at least you are happy loving someone.   Love comes in an unexpected moment just like a butterfly that alights on your shoulder.  If there is love, embrace it with love.  Trust that the love will last,  now and forever.

He loves me,  he love me not!
                             
                                                         Mhargz GV